IT'S DECIDED - WHAT THE WORLD NEEDS IS A HUG

It's the conclusion that me and my sister came to after getting in touch and talking on the phone, the world is broken right now and we need to hurry and start dishing out the love - STAT!

We are in a serious state of turmoil that has progressively been getting worse and worse, instead of resolving problems we are to busy adding to them, whether it's fueled by ignorance, greed, anger, selfishness or just downright evil - (or potentially all of those mentioned). Not enough is fueled by either love or selflessness.

We came to the conclusion if people just stopped what they were doing for a moment and just hugged the person next to them about 80% of world problems would diminsh.

(Now I am not saying that all of a sudden everything will happen magically and famine will disappear, pollution or even wars and conflict will just *poof* and disappear), but I am saying if we stopped marching around with guns blazing a little more and made room to allow for love and positivity flow through us for a little while - wouldn't it give us the room to reflect a little more and come with actual real solutions for our problems.

We need to start the trend of hugging, let the negative dam burst and flow out so that the better and positive wash over and flow in. A simple display of affection, such as a hug can be more powerful than we even realise - if we allow it to be.

CREATIVE DECISION/EPIPHANY

Creative juice runs in my family, it is pretty much in our blood - it is futile to fight it, you'll only get frustrated.

I have been watching my aunt's creative genius for the last couple of months as she crafted the most pretty things out of nothing - her creative flair turned that nothing into something pretty spectacular.

She has always had canvases in her home and I have always associated them with paintings or photography, you know - the standard forms of art.

BUT WHO SAYS ART HAS TO BE STANDARD ... DUH!

My aunt aunt came home today with two blank canvases in tow and I got hit with an epiphany of creativity that pretty much changed how I will now look at canvases - forever!

I can't wait to get started.

WORDS OF WISDOM: THAT'S WHAT GODMOTHERS ARE FOR

Like the majority of the women in my family, my aunt is a formidable woman.

She has a way of making you see clearly, you may not always agree with her point of view but she does make sense - not the kind who argues for the sake of arguing (we need less people like that in the world anyway)

The main reason I write this blog, is so that I can sort out the jumble that goes through my brain and learn from all sorts of thoughts, hypotheses I come across. Things that I work on to help myself and I believe that could be useful to at least one other person in the big, wide world.

Not that many years ago I carried what felt like the weight of the world on my shoulders (really NOT good for you), and had a series of nervous breakdowns, panic/anxiety attacks with a slight onslaught of depression. Not exactly my best moments in time but it is something I still am learning from today, and minimising the burdens I do carry is something I still am doing and working on to this very day - that and changing my thought process/outlook on life.

As caring as my nature can be, I am slowly learning that it is not my job to save the entire world but to make as many positive contributions towards it and myself - at the end of the day, we are only normal superheroes and not quite supernatural, at least not just yet anyway.

After asking my aunt (who is also my formidable godmother) whether she has had any breakdowns of that kind, she gave me a pep talk of sorts that lead to various epiphanies exploding in my mind. 

• NERVOUS BREAKDOWNS ARE NOT ANYTHING TO BE ASHAMED OF - More people than you know have suffered from them and it doesn't mean that you are crazy.
• BREAKDOWNS ARE MEANT TO MAKE YOU STRONGER - If you are able to analyse the cause and work on it, you are not supposed to let it beat you and make you afraid. She it as your brain telling you to stop, it is overloaded and that it needs a reboot.

I told my aunt that after my breakdown, things were not quite the same again and she quite rightly told me that they are not supposed to, otherwise there wouldn't be a breakdown in the first place. I hit my damn and it broke and although picking up the pieces and re-building it may be laborious and difficult - it has to be done. The difference is that this time, you analyse the pieces, you put back what is supposed to be put back, discard what wasn't meant to be there in the first place, renew and replenish with new pieces, and tend to the damn every now and then - you will know yourself better and be more wiser for it.

My godmother may not be a fairy but she is still magical - I can see things much more clearer now.

5 THINGS THAT WORK A LITTLE BETTER IN SETTING GOALS

I'm no expert at life and I am still not where I would like to be - so I set goals.

Why?

Because setting goals makes the monotony of certain things in life ... less monotonous.

Goals can come in any size or format, and can change. The best way I found to keep the whole goal setting thing 'fun' is by setting a short, a mid and a long-term goal, and if you find that you want to take on the world and have about 1000 goals - just get through them one at a time by prioritising the ones that are most important to you.

A lot of the time the goals we set seem completely unattainable so after writing them down, that is usually we tend to leave them - written down and forgotten.